by Kristel | Apr 13, 2016 | Formative Psychology, Psychotherapy, Relationship, Somatic Therapy
don Miguel Ruiz’s wisdom book, The Four Agreements, is something to pay attention to. But you can’t be impatient with it. He talks simply and succinctly about concepts that when you actually apply them to daily life, are as difficult as making a good sushi... by Kristel | Feb 12, 2016 | intimacy, Psychotherapy, Relationship, Somatic Therapy
We want to celebrate the love that is between us and within our lives this Valentine’s weekend, but can we first harness the power of what love is? How do you own your love? I pose this question, and I can feel the power of something rumbling within. It excites... by Kristel | Feb 4, 2016 | intimacy, intimacy, Psychotherapy, Relationship, Somatic Therapy
Honestly, don Miguel Ruiz’s book, The Four Agreements triggered me when it first came out in 2003. Their simplicity, and the way they felt at a distance from many of the dilemma’s I was facing caused me to dismiss them as “pop-psychology” and having... by Kristel | Jan 30, 2016 | Somatic Therapy
When I am unresolved with someone I care about, I spend a lot of time trying to address the problem, to get in touch with my feelings, and to find a way to communicate with them. I can only tolerate so much discomfort before I must do something to soothe the discord... by Kristel | Jan 27, 2016 | intimacy, Psychotherapy, Relationship, Somatic Therapy
I want to continue January’s theme of resolution by offering my solutions to resolving within relationships with people who matter to you. Now that we know what to do with difficult situations and unresolvable people (i.e., figure out how to resolve within yourself so... by Kristel | Jan 20, 2016 | intimacy, Relationship, Somatic Therapy
It is difficult to resolve a problem when people are relating in ways that create problems and not solutions. When a relationship comes to a point where you think, “I cannot resolve anything with this person,” the defeat and frustration of the situation can... by Kristel | Jan 11, 2016 | Relationship, Somatic Therapy
Following up on my post, Redefining Resolutions for 2016, I am writing on how to apply my ideas around making resolutions towards relationships. I have been looking at resolutions as a way to “re-solve:” to look at a dilemma, consider what I want or need,... by Kristel | Dec 31, 2015 | Contemplations, intimacy, Relationship, Somatic Therapy
Approaching a new year, a new chapter, or any new beginning, most of us look positively towards all that can be different than before. We make resolutions, state intentions, imbue ourselves with visions and manifestos. For some, new years can spark the impulse to... by Kristel | Aug 22, 2015 | AEDP, Psychotherapy, Relationship
In respect to my advanced training with Diana Fosha and her body of work called AEDP (Accelerated, Experiential, Dynamic, Psychotherapy): Adaptive Action Tendencies The idea of looking at ways that people body patterns of actions are ways that people are organized in... by Kristel | Aug 22, 2015 | Formative Psychology
Anytime that I use the word “form” or interiority” as a way to describe the action state that I am calling fierce patience, these are terms borrowed by the pioneering work of Stanley Keleman. Seeing any state or way of being in a particular moment as a voluntary...